For any reasons. One of them - they are taught that beauty is feminine. When the ordinary russian man tries to dress up he could hear from his mother or father smth like "stop dressing up like a girl!". Nice clothes is feminine, nice looking clean face is feminine, sometimes descending to "if you don't drink vodka with me - are you a girl or what?"
Why does this happen? Why, in a country, where, according to Pushkin and Dostoevsky, 200 yrs ago men were spending half of their time in front of the mirror, now they are ashamed to look good?
The answer is Second World War (SWW) and terror of 30-40s. 20 mln died in war, most of them men. 20-30 mln died in Stalin's camps, most of them men. In the early 50s, the number of adult men was 5 times less than number of women. Go to the gks.ru - Russian State Statistics dept web site. Check out gender chart and have a look at 60-70 year olds. So, in market economy terms, the supply for men was very limited so the price raised enormously. Women were making all possible effort to acquire a man. Man, in contrary, were relaxed as the supply of women was excessive, Whatever you do, no matter how you look, you will find your girl.
This attitude was anchored in many generations. Only now, in generation that follows mine (born 1995 and later), I see that men are trying to look better, but still not in quantities required to make the country's young generation look nice.
We are living now face-to-face with other Russian-speaking nations, e.g. Caucasus. And it clearly shows that they were not touched by this gender phenomenon. They always look good, no matter what money they make and where they live. The Armenian guy selling flowers in the public market looks hell of a good compared to the big Land Cruiser driver of early 40s in ugly sport suit and "barsetka" - symbol of post-perestroika times - man's purse - size of woman's purse but shape of a business suitcase. 99% of them are black.
By the way, I could entitle this idea as "why Russian girls are so pretty?". The answer would be the same.
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
What is the perfect job for me?
I want to work for people. Not for myself.
I want a job that, at least partly, contributes to environment protection. I can't work for business that kills nature (humans, animals, plants, air, sea or land).
I want to interact with people. I want them either to share the common vision with me, or that I would have to convince them, develop them personally and/or professionally to share this vision.
I'm a change catalist and I'm good in breaking old laws. So I need a developing business or at least business that reborns.
Areas where I'm good at:
marketing,
sales,
strategy,
analitics,
creating team spirit,
unconventional paths,
convincing people in something,
listening, understanding, suggesting an option -> motivation,
openness/ transparency,
responsibility,
honesty,
training, consulting - and I feel this is my destiny
Areas where I need to advance:
enterpreneurship (I don't know and hardly understand the schemes of fast and furious money making),
focus on one thing at a time,
not still fluent in finance terms,
administrating the process (TdB, regular meetings),
I too much focus on tomorrow and do not deliver immediate result
What I like to do:
analitics
marketing concepts
creating plans
sales job, B2B
collecting info, synthesising, suggesting
working with people
physical job, if it's about creating something, like cleaning, planting trees, building/constructing
apply my intuition
What I hate to do:
monotoneous operations, I will hardly work on production line
physical job, same things
workgin in an environment with a risk to my personal safety
sitting on a meetings where I feels things are going wrong direction
I want a job that, at least partly, contributes to environment protection. I can't work for business that kills nature (humans, animals, plants, air, sea or land).
I want to interact with people. I want them either to share the common vision with me, or that I would have to convince them, develop them personally and/or professionally to share this vision.
I'm a change catalist and I'm good in breaking old laws. So I need a developing business or at least business that reborns.
Areas where I'm good at:
marketing,
sales,
strategy,
analitics,
creating team spirit,
unconventional paths,
convincing people in something,
listening, understanding, suggesting an option -> motivation,
openness/ transparency,
responsibility,
honesty,
training, consulting - and I feel this is my destiny
Areas where I need to advance:
enterpreneurship (I don't know and hardly understand the schemes of fast and furious money making),
focus on one thing at a time,
not still fluent in finance terms,
administrating the process (TdB, regular meetings),
I too much focus on tomorrow and do not deliver immediate result
What I like to do:
analitics
marketing concepts
creating plans
sales job, B2B
collecting info, synthesising, suggesting
working with people
physical job, if it's about creating something, like cleaning, planting trees, building/constructing
apply my intuition
What I hate to do:
monotoneous operations, I will hardly work on production line
physical job, same things
workgin in an environment with a risk to my personal safety
sitting on a meetings where I feels things are going wrong direction
No personal development happens without the inner crisis
I do not recall any big advances in my life when I didn't come through a sort of physical or emotional pressure in order to acheive certain advance.
You always have to make an effort to climb another footstep.
As the phycologist Julian Sleigh states, any problem or even crisis you encounter in life, can be used to develop yourself personally or professionally. It allows you to understand you inner "me" deeper. And this always leads to ballance in life.
Osho says the life problem doesn't need to be solved. It needs to be observed. Stand over it and look from outside. The problem will disappear.
It looks like it's very easy to eliminate the problem or crisis. And I tend to trust Osho as it was probably the wisest man of 20th century. But try to observe something, try to meditate. It's the world's most complicated thing I ever tried. This takes a lot of effort, not physical, of course, but mental, to free your mind from unnecessary garbage and clearly the the problem or to clearly see nothing. Although Osho says it should be no effort.
I remember well how I unblocked my French [language]. I was on a training in Paris and I knew I was subscribed to English list. Upon arrival, on a prebriefing just before the course began I saw the list and I didn't find myself in the only English group - I was mistakenly put in a French group. At that moment, I didn't really speak French - at least it was very hard to speak, there was this bareer. But after two days of enourmous effort, with only 10% understood, I found myself comfortable with French and it's fine since then. Not fluent, but comfortable.
My recent crisis, when I spent hours in social network during the end of quarter and failed the quarter actually, put me into dramatic hangover, with fever and other unpleasant stuff. I had to reconsider my attitude to work, to life sucking internet and other social networks, to be more focused, more organized. And it really works now.
I'm in a hotel room in Barnaul, Russia, hours before the inaguration of a new business partner.
You always have to make an effort to climb another footstep.
As the phycologist Julian Sleigh states, any problem or even crisis you encounter in life, can be used to develop yourself personally or professionally. It allows you to understand you inner "me" deeper. And this always leads to ballance in life.
Osho says the life problem doesn't need to be solved. It needs to be observed. Stand over it and look from outside. The problem will disappear.
It looks like it's very easy to eliminate the problem or crisis. And I tend to trust Osho as it was probably the wisest man of 20th century. But try to observe something, try to meditate. It's the world's most complicated thing I ever tried. This takes a lot of effort, not physical, of course, but mental, to free your mind from unnecessary garbage and clearly the the problem or to clearly see nothing. Although Osho says it should be no effort.
I remember well how I unblocked my French [language]. I was on a training in Paris and I knew I was subscribed to English list. Upon arrival, on a prebriefing just before the course began I saw the list and I didn't find myself in the only English group - I was mistakenly put in a French group. At that moment, I didn't really speak French - at least it was very hard to speak, there was this bareer. But after two days of enourmous effort, with only 10% understood, I found myself comfortable with French and it's fine since then. Not fluent, but comfortable.
My recent crisis, when I spent hours in social network during the end of quarter and failed the quarter actually, put me into dramatic hangover, with fever and other unpleasant stuff. I had to reconsider my attitude to work, to life sucking internet and other social networks, to be more focused, more organized. And it really works now.
I'm in a hotel room in Barnaul, Russia, hours before the inaguration of a new business partner.
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